feeling lost

[Parents! Get help here!]

Hi, friends!  been awhile since I have posted....I knew this would happen...this is nearing the 2nd year of contactLESS holidays with my pwBPD; I just have this nagging sensation I should do SOMETHING, anything...(I did text BPD because her insurance card needed updated; sent a very brief, "I miss you & I love you); BPD is still in contact with my mother, so that is a good thing...I know i am setting myself up for failure, but I really thought, by NOW BPD would have "come around" (than I remind myself, it is nothing personal, etc.; any thoughts or suggestions?  I feel so sad EVERY day (I see messages about keeping busy, doing things for yourself...I am busy & feel complete in my "adult" life, I just miss my pwBPD too much)

[BPDstinks]

Hi, friends!  been awhile since I have posted....I knew this would happen...this is nearing the 2nd year of contactLESS holidays with my pwBPD; I just have this nagging sensation I should do SOMETHING, anything...(I did text BPD because her insurance card needed updated; sent a very brief, "I miss you & I love you); BPD is still in contact with my mother, so that is a good thing...I know i am setting myself up for failure, but I really thought, by NOW BPD would have "come around" (than I remind myself, it is nothing personal, etc.; any thoughts or suggestions?  I feel so sad EVERY day (I see messages about keeping busy, doing things for yourself...I am busy & feel complete in my "adult" life, I just miss my pwBPD too much)

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi BPD,
I get it.  My adult son is also estranged. It doesn't help the Hellidays ( er, Holidays) are coming up.  I, too wonder how long is this going to go on. I am trying to remember if he gets intouch is out of my hands,but it is still terrible,.  Self care is in order.  What is something kind you can do for you?  Plug in "estrangement " into the search feature here for some readings that may help.  I am looking into starting a new hobby- taking rollerskating lessons at the age of 62.  For that 30 minutes per week, I am not thinking of my BPD.Hopfully I can stick with it long enough to meet some goals , which will increase my self esteem.  Put the focus on you, as much as you can.