No Contact and still lovin it! (14 years later)

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hi everyone,
  I don't post here very often (in fact, so many of my old posts were deleted from old timey expiration!) but Ithought I'd jump in to lend my experience as a certain day of gloom and doom approaches...

  I went NC with momster over 14 years ago, and not a day goes by that I regret that decision.  Seriously.
 The constant choas, hot/cold mood swings, the "I hate you don't leave me" insanity of it all...I left it all far, far behind.

  I don't miss the crazy phone calls to police, the screaming/sobbing (screambing?), the victim-playing, the whirlwind of never knowing what I was gonna get from one day to the next.  The gaslighting and psychological abuse has taken years to heal from.  I've been slowly but surely rebuilding my shattered self esteem.

  A lot of people have high anxiety this time of year.  Aside from seasonal weather issues and some PTSD, I no longer dread it like I used to.  For so many years I would be hurting myself, drinking alone or other behaviors.  Nowadays, I make art, cook a nice soup, play some video games.

  Now that I am No Contact, I get to decide what these days mean to me.  I get to be kind to myself and go to events if I want or (usually) have a staycation to avoid the drama-vibes.

  My neighbor is gonna save leftover pie for me   That's about as close as I get to the family drama!

[Greg]

Hi everyone,
  I don't post here very often (in fact, so many of my old posts were deleted from old timey expiration!) but Ithought I'd jump in to lend my experience as a certain day of gloom and doom approaches...

  I went NC with momster over 14 years ago, and not a day goes by that I regret that decision.  Seriously.
 The constant choas, hot/cold mood swings, the "I hate you don't leave me" insanity of it all...I left it all far, far behind.

  I don't miss the crazy phone calls to police, the screaming/sobbing (screambing?), the victim-playing, the whirlwind of never knowing what I was gonna get from one day to the next.  The gaslighting and psychological abuse has taken years to heal from.  I've been slowly but surely rebuilding my shattered self esteem.

  A lot of people have high anxiety this time of year.  Aside from seasonal weather issues and some PTSD, I no longer dread it like I used to.  For so many years I would be hurting myself, drinking alone or other behaviors.  Nowadays, I make art, cook a nice soup, play some video games.

  Now that I am No Contact, I get to decide what these days mean to me.  I get to be kind to myself and go to events if I want or (usually) have a staycation to avoid the drama-vibes.

  My neighbor is gonna save leftover pie for me   That's about as close as I get to the family drama!

[Teabunny]

Congrats Greg on 14 years!!
I'm glad you found a way to heal and move forward along a healthier path that seems to work well for you! Having just gone NC with my parents this autumn, it's heartening to know your story and it does make a difference, thank you for sharing!

On the "Coming Home" podcast I think I remember hearing that about 87% of adult children enjoy better health / happiness when they go no contact with their parents. Seems to be true in my case, too.