Discarded 7 months ago need advice

[GoodVibes]

Hi everyone,

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[GoodVibes]

Discarded 7 months ago need advice
Hi everyone,
I need advice from those of you in this community that have been discarded split black and then recycled after an extended period of time. I’ve done a search there’s a thread and I found some messages from members back in the mid 2000 to 2015 so after the initial split black, I backed off and then with the advice that I found in this forum from years ago I did light contact. I would send an email, Every once in a while into the ether because I was blocked on everything saying that I was thinking about her,  I loved her dearl, and that I would always be here for her. Well, after going to therapy for sometime, I was told that was the wrong way to go and that I should go total N.  in that. It makes the person suffering from borderline. feel that you’re always available and are weak.

I have not heard a peep from her since August we split at the end of June. She literally disappeared off the face of the Earth and she lives literally five minutes away from me. We’ve been together for over three years and the day she split on me with the day before her birthday And because I wasn’t with her the night before she told me she needed to protect herself left my house blocked and ghosted me.

Should I go complete no contact now I have been dating, but I still would love to have contact with her and maybe either have closure or try to go through a recycle to be honest. Let me know any advice please.

[once removed]

do i have the details right:

1. you were together for three years
2. she broke up with you because you werent with her the night before her birthday
3. she blocked you on all avenues
4. you havent spoken since, in 7 months

is that correct?

[GoodVibes]

Once Removed

Exactly! Poof 

[Caleb91]

Hi GoodVibes, our situations sound remarkably similar though for me it’s been over two years since the discard. How time flies. Split the blackest black and blocked on everything, I think except for email. Sent way too many groveling emails at the beginning, turning eventually more into “I’m here for you” emails, none of which got a response. Except for one very confusing text from her about a year after our breakup (I couldn’t text back because I was still blocked) it’s been total silence and a total icing out. She’s also “disappeared off the face of the earth” as you describe, having gone very silent on social media since our breakup two years ago.

I have no answers for you but I sympathize and relate. Every day I hope to see that text.