My daughter with bpd

[Furkin]

As a mom it is so difficult and tiring to not only keep up on one's own mental health issues but that of a adult child's bpd.  My 23 year old daughter last year had a devastating break up with her fiance after a medicine change that put her in a whirlwind of emotions and pychosis.   That was February 2024. Then July 2023 she tried to od on medication and ended up in mental institute for over a week.  The medicine helped for a little bit until recently.  She now realizes what she did and what she has lost and wants to die daily if she can't be with her fiance.   I don't want to give her false hope but just enough to get to the otherwise of this.  Everytime she gets a therapist they leave.  So she just feels like no one wants her to get better.  Everyday is a struggle.   Every emotion is intense.   This mama is tired. But never too tired to love her and help her. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[BPDstinks]

hi!  goodness, I feel your pain...my 25 y/o daughter (pwBPD) (long story, "ghosted" me, her father, sister & nieces (she reaches out, via text, really when she needs something...however, I perservere) anyway...when she DID speak to me, she flat out asked me to help her die, said, she did not kill herself b/c of me, did i give her permission TO die, had me take 3/4 of her pills so she did not OD, had me hide her knives in her apartment, nearly starved herself (flash forward, she got a DBT therapist & out of the literal clear blue, said I enabled her (I was doing EVERYthing she ASKED) anyway...I honestly cannot wrap MY brain around it, I feel horrible for your situation, best I can say is, I did a "Jesus Take the Wheel approach & i found a wonderful therapist who specializes in parents of children/adults with BPD, if any of that helps...feel free to reach out!  (I know it is mentally exhausting, my pwBPD is the last thing I think of at night and the first thing in the morning (going on 3 years now)