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Author Topic: Third break up in our 6 year relationship, this time it feels very different  (Read 8244 times)
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« Reply #90 on: June 02, 2025, 11:38:13 AM »

how are things going RB? any update?
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« Reply #91 on: June 07, 2025, 04:34:54 AM »

Hello,

I've been a bit radio silent on here mainly because I've gotten to the stage where I truly am just putting myself first and getting myself through to my ex's move out day.

I've been going to my therapy sessions which are helping among other things she feels as though I've switched off my anger emotion to the point where I don't feel or act on it even when it's justified or even needed. So we're doing some exercises around that.

In regards to my ex I've been giving her mountains of space. We did have a chat a while back again where she talked through her needs a little more around independence and no responsibility however some things she said really made it clear for me at least that things she was saying in the beginning don't really seem possible at least to me anyway.

She's acted a whole lot more distant like to me if it continues like this I can't even see there being able to be a friendship when she's moved out so I'm not sure where her heads at. She sometimes comes in and never says hello, leaves and never says goodbye and never texts or even reads my messages after she's messaged me about something.

I'm feeling more centered and trying to sort out my life. I still have days where I'm just sad and grieving the relationship that we had and the future of marriage etc but it is what it is now and I can't chase someone who right now atleast isn't giving me any clear signals she wants me in her life.
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« Reply #92 on: June 07, 2025, 09:53:42 AM »

great strides. this seems like something youre going to just have to ride out. the absence of tension/conflict is your friend, but it may take more time to affect a real reset.

So over a week or so ago when she was open to spending time with me etc we arranged to go up to London together mid June to watch a play I'd bought her for her birthday.

is this still set to happen as far as you know?
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« Reply #93 on: June 07, 2025, 01:00:11 PM »

So as far as I know it's going ahead. It's all booked and she has it in her calendar.

However the joint calendar is directly linked to her work shifts, so any time off booked shoes up automatically when it's approved.

Earlier she said it was all fine, however the leave isn't on the calendar just her shifts.

I'd like to think she'll come to me about it a good time beforehand as she knows I was booking a hotel etc.

I'm happy to wait and see what happens. I'll be disappointed if it doesn't go ahead. However with the distance recently it seems unlikely from my PoV
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