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[Jobby2015]

Hi everyone. I have been reading the book "Stop walking on Eggshells" and it has been really informative for me. I have a mother with BPD who has never sought treatment and we have never talked about her having it. We have had a roller coaster relationship, and currently not speaking. I am hoping this space will help me to deal with some of the specific things going on with us, and hopefully know that others deal with the same.

[Naughty Nibbler]

Welcome Jobby2015:   

Sorry to hear about your mom.  I've read the, "Stop Walking on Eggshells" book as well.  It helped me understand what was going on with my sister.  Has your mom given you "the silent treatment" before?  Is your father in the picture? 

Are you able to share some of the details that led up to the current silence?

We can't change them.  You can, however, make some changes in the way you interact  with your mother and how you react to her.  By using some communication skills and boundaries, you can make thing better for you.

BOUNDARIES

COMMUNICATIONS

The links above can be a good place to start learning some skills.  It can take some practice, so don't get discouraged.  We look forward to hearing more of your story.

[P.F.Change]

Welcome, Jobby2015. 

Stop Walking on Eggshells caught my eye in a bookstore many years ago, and was my first clue that my mother might have a disorder and that our problems weren't all my fault. You've definitely found a place where others will understand your struggles. Would you like to talk about what you're currently dealing with in your relationship with your mother? Is it a mutual decision to take a break from one another?

Looking forward to hearing more from you when you're ready.

Wishing you peace,

PF