Hi! I am sorry to hear this....I know (really!) it is harsh and so hurtful! (unsure if it is BPD related...) my son has a daughter, I found out about my granddaughter when she was 14 months old (talk about hurtful (my son NEVER told me) he saw her a few times, up until she was 2 years old, he called me & said "this "father" thing is not working for me": I am going to terminate my rights; due to his lack of interest and the "baby mom" being so young (at the time she was 22 years old) I was very attached to (we nicknamed her) K; she practically lived with us; he said, I do not want you to see her anymore; I tried to rationalize with him; his last words were, if you continue this relationship, you are "dead to me"; well....fast forward, K is 9 years old, has 3 beautiful sisters and we are all just one family unit; I have heard from my son once, via a text (he wanted baby mom's phone number (selfishly, to try to get child support REDUCED, despite a great job) and bumping into him last Christmas Eve at a restaurant, where he came over & awkwardly said, Merry Christmas & left; I find it unbelievable that we (parents) give birth to children that can just TOSS parents aside; again, I am very sorry for YOU (I don't really have any advice
