What to do?

[Ridethestorm]

My husband was, as far as he told me, diagnosed with bpd, tho he now says he wasn't?!? I took him back to try again cos there's lots of history m love there. He stopped taking his meds told gp he's still on them, and his therapy stopped. He got a job cos I said he needed to contribute financially. He did it for five weeks, then quit. I'm really worried about him now tho as he spends his days talking to chatgpt and researching the occult. He now says there's messages coded for him in occult books. He's having grandiose thoughts that he's a genius. I can't get him to go to drs as he thinks it's me who doesn't get it. His family say I'm a narcissist trying to control him and anything he does or says is fine. Just don't know what to do. Any ideas appreciated x

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[SuperDaddy]

Hi Ridethestorm ,

It's unclear if he has BPD because you have not clearly described any BPD symptom. But you can go through the DSM criteria and count for yourself how many of the BPD symptoms you think he has. For instance, my ex and my current wife hit 8 to 9 of the 9 items, so it's very easy to identify. The hallucinations are not part of the criteria and could be part of a psychotic disorder, but he could have both.

His family say I'm a narcissist trying to control him and anything he does or says is fine.

Did you talk to his family, or is he the one who speaks for his family? My wife used to say lots of stuff on behalf of her family just to provoke me, but they were not true or were exaggerations.

[mitochondrium]

Hi Ridethestorm,

what you have described does not sound like BPD, but ofcorse BPD can coexist with other psychiatric illnesses…
However, you report your husband stopped taking meds and is lying to  GP. Did you consider callin/telling GP what is really going on, maybe GP will have some advice for you, maybe GP can talk to your husbandt... The fact that he is not going to job anymore only after  5 wreks worries me.
If he would be in danger of harming himself or another person, also financially, you could also get him hospitalised in psychiatric ward…