BPD causing delusional behaviour

[GlobeTrotterGirl]

Hi All

I'm 46 and my 74 year old mother has been a difficult person all my life and I realised after my dad 9 years ago that she ticks every box for BPD and myself, my aunt and my brother are in no doubt that she has it - not that we could tell her that! Age has currently gone in to another episode and is now driving my brother and aunt away, she's giving them the suicide talk but also treating them.lihw they've done something wrong but won't tell them what, she kept telling my brother on Sunday that he can't be trusted and was mean to him.avd this came on after months of winter getting her down. She claims to have stockpiles pills, she made a strange claim that a woman who works in a store in her town will.yaie the dog after she's taken her own life - the paranoid and suspicion seem really to point of being delusional behaviour! I've long since thought that she gets fantasies in her head which she believes are real as to what she perceives people have done.

Has anyone else experienced a relative with BPD becoming completely delusional? I did try and get her doctors to take seriously that she likely has BPD once but they didn't want to know! It's so hard to know what to do! She's very cruel when she's like this abs she is of course widowed and  living aline in these delusional states!

Thing is she is like egg shells too, she thinks we don't speak to each other about her and sees it as cardinal sin to do so and would go beserk if she knew that we confide in and support each other through it! It's like BPD people forget what family means! My brother is 51 and just getting sorted with a very overdue ADHD diagnosis and meds so it's not fair what she puts him through, my aunt lost her husband suddenly and prematurely just a year after my dad died but my mum doesn't seem to care about that. It's all about her really bad it's frustrating as I know it's the illness but we seem to be stuck with forever dealing with jit. She has driven most other extended family away or refuses to have anything to do with them - again it's always perceiving in her own head that they've done something!