different kind of BPD

[BPDstinks]

Hi, friends!  I wonder if anyone has experience with a "different" kind of BPD....my daughter has BPD and it appears "split" (cut of contact with most of her family); go figure, my granddaughter's mother, says she has BPD (she is not related to me, her mother seems unsure of this, but...I will go with that!) for 10 years, she has gone from sugar sweet to EVIL in minutes, than she will apologize....it is wearing thin!  I try to utilize the same "don't argue, don't be defensive" tactics as I do with my daughter, that seems to "pacify"; the kids are getting older and it makes me so sad that they witness this (last night, I was taking the older one to the a softball game and was 5 minutes late and the gates of hell opened up...any tips?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders