I found a good divorce mediator and have passed the contact along to my wife; I'm fairly certain I'm in a discard phase so this might be great. My own therapist and I are working through mental preparations for the charming or future anger that gets thrown my direction
Depending on what shared assets and debts there are, a divorce mediator may be unable to succeed. Let me restate that... Most of us tried mediation, after all it is a required second step in a divorce, after the initial temp order. So don't be disappointed if it ultimately ends with a stalemate.
However, most of our divorces do
eventually end in settlements. That is partly due to the multiple steps in a divorce but more likely due to the court willing to put off making rulings or decisions and instead allow repeated continuances. (Judges don't like making decisions since they don't want an appeal to a higher court to reverse a decision.) It's as if the court is a reluctant referee stating, "Be adults, you can work this out, so just do it." Alas, our cases don't involve two reasonably normal adults.
I've made a promise to myself to focus on mind and health for the remainder of this year. We don't need to be thinking about dating or anything, haha. But I'll say it was really nice; I've received a few
It is nice to have normal conversations with overall positive people, isn't it? But we are wise to avoid getting into another relationship before we have a measure of recovery from this one. How to know when we are rebalanced and ready? One way to realize this might be an undesirable
rebound relationship is if we keep talking about all the crazy making experiences with our new ex. Better to work those aspects out with a counselor.
