He told me he didn’t want to drop our daughter off to me because he wants to burn my house down. He told me he wanted to amend the separation agreement and I’d sign it or he would take my child from me.
If you have a peace bond in effect, then you ought to report this. The terms of that bond are meant to ensure peace. There's no way to interpret this but as a threat, intimidation or how imbalanced he is. The reason to report such comments or actions is that: the sooner you report then the more likely it is to be considered legally actionable.
To illustrate: If I called emergency services and said "my ex almost burned down my house last month" it's possible the person answering would respond, "call back promptly when it happens again since it's not an emergency now". Timing is of the essence. Report and provide what specific documentation you have... date, time, locations, witnesses, recordings, emails or texts, etc.
I went through a separation, divorce and subsequent parenting orders a couple decades ago. I learned a few things. An important one was that adult relationships have little impact on parenting orders. The courts generally don't involve themselves in infidelity claims and similar back and forth.
Just because he's been triggered by what others have said or insinuated is not basis to reject or rewrite a parenting agreement. The problem becomes more complicated because the other is so vehement about the matter.
How ironclad is the separation agreement? Has it been filed with the court? Has the judge or magistrate approved it? Those aspects are important.
Yes, your ex could bring it back to court but usually judges don't want to revisit a court-approved settlement until there has been enough time - a year or two - to determine whether the agreement can work, and if not then why not. Even then your ex would need to provide documentation, generally that you're neglectful or an endangerment to your children. Sorry, hearsay and unsubstantiated allegations aren't enough... not even an ex's mere upset.
So I swing back to the biggest matter - how far has that settlement gotten in court? If it is approved by the court then he may have difficulty getting it modified anytime soon. (Of course
don't share that possibility with your ex. One important lesson we all learn in these scenarios is that we only share necessary parenting details with the ex, nothing else unless approved by our lawyer. With such high conflict separations we have to be very careful what we share since we don't want to enable the ex to sabotage us.)
That said... are you recording any of his rants, whether pressuring or threats? Him threatening to burn down your house, if it was recorded or documented by witnesses, might be legally actionable. (Your lawyer could provide legal advice for you.) My ex posed as a victim and I knew she could initially play on the system's procedures. So as I saw our marriage imploding, I chose to quietly record her rants and rages since I felt I needed to document that it wasn't me making threats or playing the aggressive victim. If I happened to record what was said and shouted around me, well, not my fault.
