I have no idea what to expect. I believe she is doing better, but can I truly trust that?
If she is disordered, then No.
Routinely, when pwPDs establish this sort of contact, the pwPD appear lucid >
the non builds up their hopes of friendship or something more >
the unhealthy coping mechanism and behaviours kick in again, projection & push/pull & splitting etc >
the non experiences higher and higher levels of abuse >
the non finds out about infidelities >
the emotional and psychological damage done to the non is worse than anything experienced previously >
the non finally understands that Self Preservation is paramount and goes Full NC.
I guess I just have to see for myself and go in with zero expectations. I think I am ready. Excited and nervous to see her again.
If you can go in with zero expectations, then you're stronger than I was.
But I can fully relate to 'having to see for oneself'.
Ask yourself - what do you want to get out of this meeting?
Think 2 steps ahead, 5 even.
Presume all goes swimmingly - what do you hope will follow on? Closure? Friendship? Relationship?
Good Luck! Stay safe