Mum has: BPD and Dissociative Identity Disorder / Multiple personality disorder

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My mum has BPD but a huge part of her illness is DID / multiple personality disorder. We have identified 7 personas, each with their own mannerisms, voices, names, personalities and destructive behaviours. They are all different ages and genders with "Hannibal" and "Johnathan" being the most destructive, Johnathan in particular likes to set fire to things 

Just wondering if anyone else has a parent with this alongside BPD? Not found any support groups specific to DID

Thanks! 

[JP_003]

My mum has BPD but a huge part of her illness is DID / multiple personality disorder. We have identified 7 personas, each with their own mannerisms, voices, names, personalities and destructive behaviours. They are all different ages and genders with "Hannibal" and "Johnathan" being the most destructive, Johnathan in particular likes to set fire to things 

Just wondering if anyone else has a parent with this alongside BPD? Not found any support groups specific to DID

Thanks! 

[Kwamina]

Welcome back JP_003

I remember your previous posts in which you indeed mentioned your mother having severe mental issues. DID is quite a complex disorder and can be very difficult to deal with. BPD by itself is already challenging enough, sadly your mother is also dealing with other issues on top of that.

Since when have you been aware of your mother's DID and multiple personas? When was she diagnosed with this disorder?

I know your mother has received and is receiving treatment. Do you feel like this has in any way helped with the DID?

The Board Parrot

[JP_003]

I used to think she was just confused and called herself different names, she used to revert to a toddler like state, speak gobbledegook, wet herself etc, this was "josie" . She was only diagnosed with DID properly a few years ago as the personas got more dangerous.
She is still under section and has psychology once a week, not enough really! She talks a lot about going home and the staff there and her cpn talk about her going home, their plan is to have one persona control all of the others. The whole thing strikes fear into my heart, there have been so many violent, traumatic incidents even when my dad was alive and living with her I can't see how she can safely live in the community on her own. I feel like a step down house would be the best place and then a flat in a community with staff around!

Xx

[Naughty Nibbler]

Hi JP_003:

Just wondering if anyone else has a parent with this alongside BPD? Not found any support groups specific to DID

The links below have information, resources or support that you might find helpful for you.

www.aninfinitemind.com/resources.html#didforums

www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/

https://igdid.com/forum

www.dissociativeidentitydisordersupportforum.yuku.com/

The one thing I've read in a recent thread is that some people have mentioned the pwBPD in their life sometimes uses a cartoon voice or a child-like voice .  

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=305910.0

[Sunfl0wer]

Sorry you are having to deal with quite a bit of stuff.

My bio mom has schizophrenia, foster mom had BPD.
I actually do not have DID but OSDD meaning that I have a "light" version of DID with lots of coconsciousness.  (I have alters that mostly stay to the back, with a more passive influence usually.)

I would also be concerned if a person who had violent tendencies was to be discharged from hospital without a solid plan for intensive therapy upon discharge.  My biomom must stay inpatient because she has been deemed unable to care for herself and has been too violent to herself and others.

Sounds like you feel some in between placement for discharge would help.  :)o you have input with her team?

It's my understanding that these places do try to get the person with DID stabilized so that an "adult self" is mostly "Fronting" (like you said.  This happens to always be the goal I think.). yet, the goal is simply to get the person out of crisis situation, not long term stability, so hopefully there will be a clear longer term comprehensive plan... .because long term stability is managed usually out patient.

Some of the greatest things I have learned at this site is how to manage myself dealing with tricky situations, setting boundaries and such to keep myself feelinng safe.