why doesnt she want to be with me anymore?

[girlin love]

I love her to death but she keeps saying she want an open relationship but doesn't tryto fix our relationships even though she says she want to work on it. What do i do. Help

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[heartandwhole]

Hi girlin love,

That's really tough. I'm sorry things are not working out with your partner at the moment.

Do you think she has BPD?

When you can, tell us a bit more about what's going on with you.

heartandwhole

[girlin love]

She recently asked me for an open relationship but at thebsame time say she want to work on our relationship. She isn't a veery loving person plus with a stressful job and my sister and boyfriend and niece living with us we never have any alone time so relations are almost never unless she drinks a lot.she told me ashe has BPD and i can see some of the symptoms but she was on axiety medication but refuse to take any meds for the last two months and when ever i tell her anything is wrong with me as far as our relationship she always turns it in to an argument and turns it back on me and idk if i can be strong enough to keep it up without breaking down myself

[GuySmiley]

She wants an open relationship but also wants to work on your relationshipship stinks of someone whose trying to cover all their bets.

Basically she wants to have an open relationship - i.e. Sleep around and go fishing for a new relationship if one works out, but also Work on your relationship - i.e. Keep you hanging and in reserve if/until a new relationship works out.

Any discussion regarding your relationship results in an argument that gets turned back on you because she (and perhaps you?) can't face the truth that she wants out and she doesn't have the guts/integrity to come clean with you.

Sorry, that hurts to be told that, but it's nothing that anyone on these boards has gone through either.