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« on: April 21, 2017, 07:25:55 AM »

So my ex has picked her keys up for her new place today. She stayed at her mums last night. And the plan was for her to come back today and spend one last night here to see my little girl before we both took all her stuff to her new place tomorrow

Well... .3am this morning she tried to ring me. I have her blocked so it rejected the call. Then she somehow managed to add me on snapchat when i thought she was blocked and message me abuse. Apparenlty im a stalker and i need to get a grip and undertand she doesnt want to be with me any more. She doesnt want me. She clearly hadnt taken her meds as she would usually of been knocked out fast asleep at that time. When i woke and saw i asked her what the hell she was going on about. Apparently in the night i hacked her facebook twice and changed the passwor... .

Tried to explain numerous times that i hadnt but she wont accept it. Apparently she has proof but she cant show it me? Because she doesnt need to as she knows its me she said. She called me off a with held number and was literally screaming so high pitched down the phone i couldnt make any sense from her

Shes on her way to mine for her stuff now. I asked her not to but she literally has no one else who can help her and get it. I told her i dont want her at the house in that state and she jusy hung up on me

Its all my fault. Im a stalker and a psycho. Apparently i pretend she has the issue but really its me. Will she of calmed down by the time she arrives for her stuff? Its at least an hours drive from where she is
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« Reply #1 on: April 21, 2017, 07:32:40 AM »

Maybe have someone come over right away. I found mine wouldn't act out in front of a witness. Also give you safety against further accusations.
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« Reply #2 on: April 21, 2017, 08:06:58 AM »

Crazy!
Do not let her in your house without a witness. She could hit you and pretend It was you to hit her.
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« Reply #3 on: April 21, 2017, 11:23:56 AM »

So she turned up. Used the toilet , stuck the oven on to make food and said she was staying the night as she couldnt be bothered packing and driving all that way today... .

Ive told her i want her to go now but im at a loss of what to do. My 4 your old is at home and if i start forcing her she will just get violent. Dont want to bother the police as its embarassing enough. Feel like i have no option but to let her stay.

Shes just sat there frantically messaging her friends and telling me how shes going out tomorrow night and what will i do when she gets a new girlfriend. Trying to ignore it and seem like im not bothered. I just want her gone
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« Reply #4 on: April 21, 2017, 07:57:03 PM »

Options

 call police never mind the embarrassment

 Grab 4 yr old and go stay with a friend, cheap motel with pool whatever

 get friend to come stay over as witness

 get friend to come over and then insist she leave if she gets violent you have a witness AND can call police
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« Reply #5 on: April 22, 2017, 03:10:51 AM »

Well... .it got violent. I was in my bedroom staying out the way while she packed and as i took my little girl's bobble out of her hair she screamed as if got stuck. Cue ex to come in and make a comment about her being soft. I gave her a look as if to say stay out of it and got a whack around the head. Cue a scuffle. Few punches flying about. I tried to calm the situation whilst she rang her ex wife to come

Ex wife comes. She was lovely. We talked and she understood. She helped her get all her belongings in the car. My little girl hugged her and gave her a flower and said bye. She cried all night saying she loves her and misses her. Had to let her sleep in my bed

The ex emailed me a list of things shes forgotten. I said i would put them in our storage unit and she can get them out of there but she wants to come round. I said no.

Im just so sad right now. That its come to this. That shes just comepletely lost it and is in such a bad place. We all are
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« Reply #6 on: April 22, 2017, 06:40:18 AM »

I am so sorry for your pain. Change your locks. Eat the expensive ice cream. And take gentle care of yourself.
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