Dealing with the grief of a loved one with this condition

[Byrdie]

I met an incredible man who is diagnosed with BPD and seems to fit the category of the 'quiet' borderline. Our relationship started intensely and rapidly, in the typical way that relationships with pwBPD  start out in accordance to what I have read. His symptoms started showing in the 2nd month. We've talked about the stress and terror caused by this condition as exacerbated when in a relationship. We've agreed to be friends due to his decline in mental health while in a romantic relationship and his fear of my being further hurt by its effects. How do I cope with the grief of this mental illness preventing us from being together? I don't know how I'll be able to move on to other partners in the future when we have such a deep connection and the most genuine communication of anyone I've ever had in my life. My heart is broken that he is afflicted with this unfortunate disorder that destroys otherwise loving relationships.

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi Byrdie,

Welcome to the group. Sorry you are hurting. Loving someone with BPD is difficult. Was there anything specifically that led to you both deciding not to be in a relationship? What does a continued friendship with him look like to you?