Hey there. I am a woman engaged to a woman with BPD (and Dissociative). We began dating two years ago, but she was unaware of her disorders at the time. She began having pseudo-seizures after 3 months of dating. She sought treatment then but did catch it "in time", which resulted in a full dissociation that caused her to leave me (just over a year ago). After having disappeared for a month, she returned with a renewed commitment to treatment. Tentatively, we began dating again. After a solid year of full treatment and commitment, I agreed to become engaged (which just happened a month ago). She has not dissociated for a full year, and has only had a few outbursts. And when she does have an outburst, she recovers well (even if it takes a few hours- she eventually gets back on track). On flip side, I have anxiety and panic, which obviously makes this a little more challenging. (I also see a therapist, in addition to attending her sessions as a couple about once a month). For the most part, I am really proud of both of us, and see it as a bit of a miracle that we're doing so well. But of course, a year is still just a year. We are both still new to this, and I know I have a lot left to learn. One thing I struggle with is remaining calm myself when she just can't be, and I'm sure I'll read and talk about that more here as I go. Really glad I found this site and hopeful it can help us maintain what we're building together
