Thanks for your kind responsive Harley
Yeah i know why they are doing it. They want to show the whole worl how happy they are. But underneath they are not happy.
We made those pics too but in the meanwhile she was (emotional) cheating on me. I never told my story here, so here it is. (sorry english is not my mother tongue)
I met this beautifull girl on tinder and in the early stage she was lovebombing me. How handsome I was etc. etc. We had a date in Antwerpen, it was by far the best date I ever had (know I know she was just mirroring me and tryin to fit my expectations). I also saw she was hurt and insecure about past relationships. After the date we had a call where she told me she had cancer and that she would understand if i would quit dating with her.
Well I was in love with her and even the thought I was dating a girl who was (terminally)sick, didnt discourage me. I am very positive and I would never give up love for things like that. Even if she has only a couple months to live I would be happy to be part of it.
So we dated again and went to Dusseldorf for a weekend. There we started our relationship. That weekend was also the first time the red flags appear. For example": she told me story about her work relationship with her boss and other coworkers. She told me her boss was organizing a party where there was a lot of sex and alcohol involved. And all the other girls were afraid to there but she had to go. I knew back then it was a bull___ story, she just want to trigger a reaction. I am a very direct person so I told here what I thought and she was a little bit upset about it.
She had to be operated for her cancer. For that she had to calm down for a couple of weeks. Her family did not help her during this period. Normally you would expect when someone was operated her family would fully support her. But in this case it was only her mother and I who supported her. The rest of the family did not care about it. She also had no friends who supported her. Therefore, I decided to help her rehabilitate during that week. I was busy with work and we lived far apart so I arranged the hotel room near my work so I could take care of her during working hours. I did everything for her.
During the process of cure, she also asked if I wanted to watch her son if she would not survive. Her son has a father ... but I also ignored this red flag.
The whole relationship was unstable. Often she threatened to end the relationship, because small incidents/things .For example, I forgot that she had an appointment with the doctor etc. etc. The whole relationship was unstable. In the end, I was often the one who ended the relationship (and the one who recycled). Much of her behavior I relied on chemotherapy and surgery. But before she was in chemo she was also unstable (with her ex.)
The first major incident occurred shortly after surgery. She was suffering from a stalker. According to her stories, it was a friend who was in love with her. I wanted her to break the contact because I could not handle that tension in the relationship. She went to him to arrange this. After that she came up with a story that she did not really want to break the contact with him. I could not accept that and ended the relationship (block her on social media), then she stalked me all night and the next morning I called her up. She was crying and wanted to know why I ended the relationship. I loved her ,and decided to give it another chance. Small detail: "the friend" turned out to be just somebody who had met her on tinder and she met him for the first time ... .)
Then I ended it again because I went crazy about pulling and pushing. I did everything for her and she treated me badly, very badly, never giving appreciation. Try to make me jealous etc. etc.
But every time I went back because I loved her. At one point I noticed that she was busy with her phone. So I did not trust it and checked her phone. Then it turned out that she told all sorts of sad (fabcricated) stories to other men. For example, she told them I had dumped her because of cancer. I also saw that she sent pictures of herself to the "stalker"
I've also done crazy things. In the end, I became jealous and controlling. She made me crazy. One day she wanted to end the relationship because she found some old whatsapp conversations from women with me. She got crazy and she threatened to go to bed with every man and give me all the details etc. etc. During that fight another man was appealing to her and I saw all the messages coming up on her phone. At one point I lost my calmness and I hit her. In addition, I took the phone and broke it down. I'm usually never aggressive but she made me crazy. I was scared of myself. Strange enough, it made her quiet. And we even had sex. The next day we left for a weekend and then she put on a pedestal all week long. Strange it seemed like she had respect for me at one time. However, I was very sorry for my own actions and did well by recovering everything as far as possible.
The relationship went from evil to worse. At one point, I did not believe the stories she told her about her work, and I approached people from her work. This ultimately cost her her job ... .I got more guilt (rightly so).
There have been more incidents where I also showed borderline behavior. Perhaps I myself have problems, too. I went to the psychologist for help to get the relationship
After I finally terminated the relationship, she had ra replacement within 2 weeks. With that man, she post photos on her facebook
Sorry for my bad english
