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[Depression = 72% of members]

I was in a relationship until the person broke it off. They did this because they did it out of shame and said I "deserved better". I did not want this and told the person this but they had blocked me on everything. I found somehwere they didnt block me and told them I respect their decision because in the message they said they werent happy in the relationship. A few days later I received threatening and aggressive messages form this person saying abusive things. They told me I left them when they needed me and ignored the message, when in fact they had blocked me. Im feeling sad, confused, angry, guilty. I love this person and I really didnt want to give up but things seemed to escelate so quickly. I wanted to give them space which is why I told them I respected their decision but it seemed like they were testing me. I want to go back and try to figure things out but after reading the aggressive messages Im feeling in danger.

[abodashe]

I was in a relationship until the person broke it off. They did this because they did it out of shame and said I "deserved better". I did not want this and told the person this but they had blocked me on everything. I found somehwere they didnt block me and told them I respect their decision because in the message they said they werent happy in the relationship. A few days later I received threatening and aggressive messages form this person saying abusive things. They told me I left them when they needed me and ignored the message, when in fact they had blocked me. Im feeling sad, confused, angry, guilty. I love this person and I really didnt want to give up but things seemed to escelate so quickly. I wanted to give them space which is why I told them I respected their decision but it seemed like they were testing me. I want to go back and try to figure things out but after reading the aggressive messages Im feeling in danger.

[Mutt]

Hi abodashe,



I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm sorry to hear that. I can see how hurtful that would be when someone blames us for the break-up when they broke up with us  

What type of aggressive message did you receive? What did it say? Are you Ok?

[heartandwhole]

Hi abodashe,

I'd like to join  Mutt in welcoming you. These kinds of relationships can be confusing. I'm glad you reached out for support. You've found a community that understands what you are going through.

How long has it been since the breakup? How long were you together?

Your feelings are very understandable. I've been there, too. 

Keep posting. We're here for you.

heartandwhole