Wit's End/ move or no?

[Alice1]

Am at wit's end and beyond. Found info on BPDs while looking into BiPolar - the BPD sure fits my partner more! He RAGES. I understand we the ons are suppose to "listen' and go, "Yes'etc. But when he rants on SCREAMIMG for 10 or more minutes w/ abusive words (i can't trust you" "You dont't do anything" - after I've been cleaning in and out for 2 hrs! How the hell are we suppose to keep out temper day after day with this abuse? I sold my home last Oct. (been w/ him for 10 years) now am semi looking again at 57! I just wish he could stay on an even keel but even refuses to get help. Jut says yeah, I have a temper get use to it

[Mutt]

Hi Alice1,



I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily, I'm sorry that you're going through a tough time. It's difficult for a pwBPD to stay on an even keel because they can't self regulate or self soot. I recall having my ex scream at my for an hour and a half, I wouldn't put up with that today with what I know, I'd suggest to set the boundary on you, we can only control two things our thoughts and feeling, I'd change the tempo, go out and clean the garage or go run an errand, don't subject yourself to that.



PS You'll find the lessons on the right side of the board  ---------------------------------------------->

[Larmoyant]

Hi Alice1, welcome to BPD Family .Being on the receiving end of incessant raging is horrible. I relate very well to your post having been the target of my ex’s rage week in week out for 2 years. I can only imagine what it must feel like after 10. They can push you to the brink. Him saying he just has a temper is not an excuse to offload on you. As Mutt says there's lots of info on here to help you set boundaries and limit his effect on you. Check out the Improving Board too.

[Alice1]

he also has MS which complicates things. Am going to an MS clinic in a 2 weeks, don't know what that'll do. at least he kinda mentioned it as a problem last night. but it can't pertain to his nastiness, can it? like saying I'm inept when I know I'm not. he said he won't take a "happy pill" he's going to have to do something i can't do much more. am trying to tell myself if he doesn't fess up at the clinic ('cause I will0 and try to help his anger i am out. Don't know where to, i have my dog too, but... enough I have to be strong. thank you all for this site.