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Hello, 

Here I go and I need some advice,  so 6 weeks wife separated from me, she had 2 daughters from a previous marriage,  they mean the world to me. So right after we separated, my wife came back into contact with her x who abused her in front of my oldest.  This man dragged her from a car and almost killed her in front of my oldest who was 9 at the time.  My wife flew to texas for a week to be with him and this past week told my daughters that he is coming for a visit and will be staying with them.  My oldest is so scared of this man and told her mom she will never set foot in a house with him,  she has promised that he has changed.  They both stayed with me,  my wife moved out 2 weeks ago,  I forgot the mention that.

Now this man was supposed to leave today and my oldest just contacted me to tell me that mom said he can't get a flight until this weekend and there is nothing she can do, he has to stay here, so she told he daughter to go stay with me or a friend or cousin or that come here and stay cause he is a changed person.   I am beyond upset at what she is doing to her daughters and I do not know what course of action to take. 

Any help?

[helpinsac]

Hello, 

Here I go and I need some advice,  so 6 weeks wife separated from me, she had 2 daughters from a previous marriage,  they mean the world to me. So right after we separated, my wife came back into contact with her x who abused her in front of my oldest.  This man dragged her from a car and almost killed her in front of my oldest who was 9 at the time.  My wife flew to texas for a week to be with him and this past week told my daughters that he is coming for a visit and will be staying with them.  My oldest is so scared of this man and told her mom she will never set foot in a house with him,  she has promised that he has changed.  They both stayed with me,  my wife moved out 2 weeks ago,  I forgot the mention that.

Now this man was supposed to leave today and my oldest just contacted me to tell me that mom said he can't get a flight until this weekend and there is nothing she can do, he has to stay here, so she told he daughter to go stay with me or a friend or cousin or that come here and stay cause he is a changed person.   I am beyond upset at what she is doing to her daughters and I do not know what course of action to take. 

Any help?

[Mutt]

Hi helpinsac,



I just want to make sure that I understand. It sounds like the kids were staying with you and they would go back to mom after her x left, but there were changes in his plans, so he has to catch a flight later in the week. So mom didn't advise SD of the plan changes and SD had to find out when she got there that x hadn't left.

How old are the kids? Is this x their biological father?