Thankyou for replies
my Daughters and I went clothes shopping a couple of nights ago to stock up on holiday clothes for our vacation next month . My BPD DD was of course wearing the shortest of shorts and I saw a number of other young girls looking her up and down and whispering to each other . At one time my DD would have basked in this attention but I sense a change now . We were in the changing rooms and I watched her watch other girls coming out of their cubicles with little outfits on . My DD decided she didn't want to try on anymore clothes and didn't want to buy anything , and she's definitely been down over the last day or two . I hate to see my girl hurting and I hate to see others looking her up and down like that and forming judgement .
She's definitley working on the cutting impulses , is participating with her therapist , and doesn't cut as often or as severely as she used to . And she also mentioned not too long ago that she will get tattoos to cover them eventually . So I see that change in mindset and I do wonder if it's partly as a result of just naturally maturing a little bit . Because last year she was fully loud and proud , baring fresh deep cuts that were there for all to see , I think she enjoyed the shocked reaction of others too .
I have offered , gently , to buy some scar treatments for her but she won't hear of it .
I had seen some posts on here recently suggesting that their adult BPD's " used to be cutters " so I was just wondering ... .