My exBPDgf constantly needed taking care of. Is this typical BPD?

[JHKMX]

Basically my uBPDexgf needed to be treated like a princess. She was a widow when I met her and everyone always told me how amazing her ex had treated her. I was with her 3 years and although she didn't show major signs of BPD for the first 18 months I was kind of always subconsciously under pressure to give her what she wanted.

I've read a lot on these boards but ive never really read anything about borderlines desperately needing to be looked and cared after. I think she acquired BPD through neglect from her parents so perhaps her behaviour is part of the trauma from childhood.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Is it typical BPD?

[JaxDK]

Need more to go on. There are a lot of people out there that wants to be taken care of. Even so, nobody here is qualified to give a diagnosis. You can try Googling Borderline waif, hermit, queen, witch and see if you can relate to some of the experiences others have had.

My ex is undiagnosed as well but I am now 1000% sure myself. I don't need a professional to confirm. Mine is a classic waif

[Pedro]

I can only speak from my own experience with exgf BPD of 6 years. Yes she needed looking after and caring for 4.5-5 years. It would be constant reassurance because of hundred plus episode of meltdowns, implosions, self harm, binge eating and binge clothes shopping.
Makes her meals for lunch at work and evening meal at home, cleaning, washing, ironing, shopping running her on errands. You name it I did it.

Pedro.