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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: August 20, 2017, 12:27:19 AM » |
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Several years ago I was involved with a diagnosed BPD girl and it was an " interesting " experience to say the least.
About a year ago I got involved with another girl who seems very similar. I'll try to keep it very short. ive been involved with this uBPD girl for a little over a year
Past 3 months have been something like this... -- I got reconnected with her after a " break up " or " break " ... she told me how much she missed me etc etc ... claims she thought about me a lot but didn't contact me. We had a good month back maybe ?
--Then the push pull starts again ... we can't be together etc etc --within a couple days or a week she's " dating or talking to " another guy ... this goes on for about a month
- out of the blue she tells me she's cutting me off , I'm the reason her " new relationship can't grow " , she wants to cut me off so things can flourish with this guy she's know for a month or so.
- she ends up essentially triangulating the guy against me ... " he's shown me how serious he is in such a short period of time " , " we never argue " etc etc - I persist for 4 days , she talks to me - the convos are look warm... .on the 4th day she screams at me... "WHY are you calling ?" " what's wrong with you?" , "I'm gonna change my number "( this one kind of shocked me"...
- I leave her alone - 3 DAYS LATER - " hey " ... .I was baffled by the message... and actually a bit scared because I didn't understand it... she had no logical reason ... she just said she " felt bad" " wanted to be on good terms " etc etc ... she apologies ... I was so hesitant to let her back in but I like her... she claimed to be so sorry and " cared about me "
- so within a week she ends up breaking up with the guy I guess? I end up back at her place everything is good for a couple days later , her ex boyfriend who lives near by sees me walk in at night ... she claims they don't talk, she doesn't want to be with him etc etc ... we had a good couple days then she starts a random fight saying I'm texting girls in her bed? ( I wasn't )
- then starts the let's be friends etc etc push push , we will only ever be friends - so I let time pass ... seeing what's gonna happen if she'll open up... I end up calling her phone ... she picks up and the same pattern starts " don't talk to me " " leave me alone " ... a guy grabs the phone it's the ex boyfriend " she doesn't talk to" him and I have a little chat ... ( nothing crazy or threatening ) he was just acting like a white knight.
-the final phone call the next day goes something like this Me-hey who was that on the phone ? I feel like you owe me some explanation about what's going on? Her- don't call me blah blah that's my ex boyfriend Me- you mean the one you don't talk to? Her- I changed my mind ... what I can't change my mind? Me: that was pretty embarrassing and hurtful I feel like you lied to me a lot Her: no I just changed my mind etc etc , I've never loved you , I love him , it's been 3 weeks why aren't you over me yet , go meet someone new , never talk to me again, I will never talk to you again, I don't care about your feelings ... etc etc etc same triangulation thing she did with the other guy... essentially I'm a piece of $#%^ who means nothing and this old guy means everything all the sudden? ( keep in mind this is all said with what sounds like a ton of hatred and regret toward me)
Sorry if that was too long... I honestly feel a bit crazy about the whole thing. A lot of anger regarding her deception and harsh words... but at the same time if she said sorry and wanted to apologize for some strange reason I would hear her out... I don't hate her for some reason , I just hate her behavior her actions and lack of empathy...
Her mind seems to switch up so rapidly , obviously people can't diagnose a person via the internet but is this what splitting is like? Literally " caring about someone " and then suddenly it becomes disgusting hatred ? Or did I just run into a terrible narcissistic person? Her harsh words were so mean ... I'm just so lost :?:
She essentially discarded me , only to fight to have me back , only to throw me in the trash 5 times as hard as the first time within the span of 2 months! :shock:
Thanks for reading and or replying back!
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