Funny, i randomly signed up to a dating site just to see and look she was the first person to popup on me. It hurt me and i even wrote "thank you for confirming this. may god give you what you deserve". I know maybe i should of held it together, and i know that i deserve better than this but i started to think of everything sacrifice and thing i did, every moment for her and how for 3 years i have not had a me moment. I went and confidently signed up to my own dating profile but to be honest, i may cancel, i simply don't feel like it, its more of a job right now and i'm not in that place and i don't want to hurt anyone else.
Just thought I'd share this. If i had a time machine i'd go back and stop myself from ever meeting this woman.
My exBPD sent me an email after our first breakup after 4 weeks saying I should never been allowed to call her gf so quickly. We got back together and 4 weeks later I asked in an email if it was ok to refer to us in a relationship and she said she was not offended. Then the next week she ended it.
I've learned that BPD s can be afraid of intimacy due to their past relationships and/or trauma event.
Just try to accept, like I have, you can't make someone want to be with you.
My exBPD was on and off a dating website for the 2 mos we have been done. Every time she is off the site I think of her with someone else. Oh well, if she finally finds the perfect guy, be happy for her. Based on her track record of broken marriages?
You know what? It's none of my business. I'm slowly learning to accept the whatever we had as a learning experience and move on.