Hi
My wife says... .
- I'm cheating on her, but I never have.
I'm gas-lighting but I'm not
that I'm narcissistic, deviant, master deceiver, but I'm not.
This is very difficult to handle emotionally and has been going on for many years. 15+ We've been together since 1996. Were married in 1999. We have 2 children. Son 10 and daughter 6.
She has accused me of having inappropriate relationships with her sister and her mom, but that has never happened either. She even accuses me of having relationships with men, but I don't.
Today's example:I started using a different ingredient in my morning drink and she asked me why I am afraid of using the other one. I said I'm not, but she immediately responds, "Liar". Then she dumped it out because I must have contaminated it.
Other examples:I opened the blinds in the laundry room differently one day and she asked me if it was a signal to someone that it's okay to meet and hook up.
She says that she is aware that I have devices hidden in the house to video tape her, but I don't.
She accuses me of putting GPS trackers on her car, but I never have.
She says she has proof that I had a different woman in our house. Supposedly a neighbor confided in her that she saw me with a different woman. That never happened.
She has been arrested for domestic violence back in June 2012.
It's unbelievable and sad that I cannot get help from anyone with regards to mental health issues.
She has to want to help herself, but she says she is doing fine.
Yes, she is under the care of a psychiatristOfficial diagnosis is "Cyclothymic Disorder" which I think is partially right, but I've been reading alot and I think she has other issues. Such as Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Delusional Disorder "Jealous" type.
Things I've tried- Directly challenging her, but it only makes things worse.
- Disengaging from the yelling usually works.
- I'm trying the gray rock method now, but I'm not very good at it.
Good NewsI am not depressed. Seriously, I've been through therapy and I've come along way.
I used to have panic attacks but I do not any more. (took 3 yrs to go away).
I used to have acid reflex but I don't any more. (Lots of exercise and diet change)
I've lost 30 lbs and I am maintaining and putting on muscle.
Basically doing pretty good.
Q: So why am I posting now?She want's a divorce. She's given me notice and says I have three months to agree to her terms or she will file and serve me papers.
Also, she is getting really abusive verbally and accusing me of doing the things that she is doing. I don't know how anyone else feels about a situation like this, but it's really strange to me.
Q: How do I deal with someone accusing me of doing things that I'm not?