Ex wife has BPD and I need support

[Depression = 72% of members]

I've lived with my wife for almost 15 years and experienced lots of pain all the years, and often felt that something was wrong with me. But after reading Walking on the Egg Shells book 2 years ago I started to realize that my wife has BPD. I tried and tried to find a way on my own, but realized there was no way. So I filed for divorce and now dealing with even more hell. We have three kids who been poisoned so much by mom, that it's hard for them to understand what is real. I don't want to make my initial introduction long, because the story is so long I can write a book. I am looking for support group and to read about how other people dealing with similar or same situations as mine.

[Steve_444]

I've lived with my wife for almost 15 years and experienced lots of pain all the years, and often felt that something was wrong with me. But after reading Walking on the Egg Shells book 2 years ago I started to realize that my wife has BPD. I tried and tried to find a way on my own, but realized there was no way. So I filed for divorce and now dealing with even more hell. We have three kids who been poisoned so much by mom, that it's hard for them to understand what is real. I don't want to make my initial introduction long, because the story is so long I can write a book. I am looking for support group and to read about how other people dealing with similar or same situations as mine.

[Mutt]

Hi Steve_444,



I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time. I am glad that you decided to join us, I can relate with that intensity that you describe as more hellish. It's tough but there is hope. 15 years is a long history, I bet that you have a lot of stories, you can pace yourself with your story, I'm looking forward to reading more of your posts. How long have you been seperated and divorced? How old are your kids? Do you have visitation with your kids?

[Harley Quinn]

Hi Steve444,

I'd like to join Mutt in welcoming you and saying that I'm sorry to hear about how your kids have been affected.  This must hurt you terribly.  I hope that you are taking good care of yourself and considering your needs after this long and no doubt difficult relationship.  Being with a pwBPD is hard and takes a lot out of us.  Now is the time for building back up your strength and healing from the impacts you've had so that as a father you can be a balanced and positive role model to your kids through their lives.  Do you have supportive friends/family/a therapist?

Love and light x