We have been "over" 3 or 4 times in the past year and half. He is BP and apparently I am co dependent. When will it really be done?
A great question which looks to me like an even greater opportunity for you to take your independence back and decide: is it over?
The choice is yours. It always has been. A recycle can only happen with two willing participants.
If you're not ready to walk away, don't. But if you are... .the choice isn't up to your partner.
Take care friend. Keep posting. This community is amazing.