What will the future of relationship if one has BPD ?

[Vent]

Today itself I knew about BPD.My relationship is at at worst condition... I want reverse it... Is it possible

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[Artemesia]

Sorry I don't mean to be unhelpful but are you writing with an electronic translator by any chance?  Just trying to work out if you're a real person before replying any further... .

[Mutt]

Hi Vent, 



Do you mean if your partner is going to back to a permanent idealization phase, putting you on a pedestal? How did you find out about BPD? How long were you in the r/s?

[Meili]

I want to join the others in welcoming you.



When we first learn about BPD it can both be a relief and frightening. I hope that you are taking more time to learn about the disorder.

Can the relationship be salvaged? Yes, there is hope of that.

If you could tell us a bit more about your situation, we will better be able to support you.

[Vent]

First of all thank u for reply... My first language is not english so there maybe some language problem but I really need support n guidance... We are n 6 years relation... bez of some reason I have to go away from him for some months... So he said we are going to end it... I am trying to convince him but all the fault is mine.from last some months I'm saying that I will never go away from him... But now is not agree at any extent... So I consulted my previous therapist to whom he also once met now she told me that he has BPD

[Meili]

I'm sure that we will all do all that we can to overcome the language problem.

I'm glad that you reached out to a therapist.

Often when we learn about BPD and it seems to fix our experiences, we want to know more. Our article "I think it's Borderline Personality Disorder, but how can I know?" can help with that.

Another thing that we tend to do is want to get our partner into treatment. That is a lot more difficult. Our article on Getting a "Borderline" into Therapy discusses this in more detail. It takes time, understanding, and a lot of patience.

When both parties are working on themselves and the relationship, a relationship with a person with BPD can be just as rewarding as any other relationship. We each have to decide if struggle is worth it however.

[Skip]

Where are you going? How far? How long?

What is he saying is the reason to end he relationship? Does he feel you should not go?

[Vent]

Hi Vent, 



Do you mean if your partner is going to back to a permanent idealization phase, putting you on a pedestal? How did you find out about BPD? How long were you in the r/s?

thank u fir rply... i dnt expect permanent idealization but normal steady relation... i was so depressed so i am consulting with therapist with whom my bf also met once in early... so she found... i am in relation from last 6 years

[Vent]

Today itself I knew about BPD.My relationship is at at worst condition... I want reverse it... Is it possible

He has made up is mind for arrange marriage... I tried with all my best to convience him but he is very firm on his decision... I am really in very much pain... I can not see what is going on... Also he is also not complete happy with his life... He just trying to complete his responsibility at least he is saying like dis... I told him for therapist but agree... What can I do so that he can come to me or I can help?Plz help me... .