I'm ready to learn the tools VII

[Oncebitten]

I know that I cant control her and I cant change her.

I just dont know how to get past this incident with the other woman.  She still wants answers and details and at this point I dont have them.  i cant remember all of the details its been over a yr.  And between the lies I told and the things she said she believe how they were I just dont know anymore.

I feel like this is just a relationship issue, if we can get past this 1 thing then we could move forward.

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... .if we can get past this 1 thing then we could move forward.

How many days in July and August did you stay at her place? How many days did she stay at yours?

[Oncebitten]

zero... havent seen her in 6 months

[Oncebitten]

its been suggested here before... .do I have a trauma bond with this woman?