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So my ex is out of meds til Monday... .apparently her and my replacement mr wonderful broke up... .she is worried about losing her job and confiding in me to support her through her depression. I am obliging her ATM but still weary of her actions in the upcoming days... .the idea of her and my replacement splitting up isn't as sweet as one would think... .now she deals with her own mind which is the biggest monster of all... .I am trying to just listen and validate her feelings as I don't want to work her up. The peace I have been diligently working for is up for grabs, as I hope to stay focused and continue my journey towards love light and kindness in life. I will be true and caring to my ex, but need to remember to be just as much or more caring to myself... .thanks for letting me share
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its noble of you to support her in this difficult time.
how are you holding up? is your plan to just support her or do you envision more?
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Thanks for asking OR... .gonna see her tomorrow. She has been told she has to stop drinking, ill post when I get back. So far still grounded, lets see if the boat gets too rocky... .peace
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How did things go?
Remember you don't have to get on board with her drama. Support her, but maybe letting her flounder in working through her own emotions could help her learn a little more about herself.
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Just got back today... .been visiting for the past 6 days, we got along very well... .she is going through some changes... .lack of meds, losing her job, broke up with replacement... .so she is struggling on a certain level... .but we got along better than I thought. Spent some days going to a couple neat places, We viewed each other as just friends and that took away a lot of pressure... .if we are meant to be more than friends down the road, so be it, but it was worth the trip. She is still nearly all consuming and very dramatic, so in the long run it might be a different scenario. But simply visiting and hanging out as friends it went very well... .I am going to stay centered and grounded in the coming days, and be weary of any possible melodramas I may incur... .thanks for caring guys it means a lot... .
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