Daughter is an addict who has relapsed

[NannaM]

 
Feeling a bit sad and helpless right now. My BPD daughter is 41, was in recovery for nearly a year after an o/d which resulted in resuscitation by CPR and NarCan, and she relapsed 10 days ago. I was filled with such hope for her. She was in DBT and a halfway house after detox, but she left to live with an ex addict and his kids. Meanwhile, she hasn't seen her own sad little 6year old daughter for three years or so.
I find it hard not to go to anger instead of being compassionate towards her. She is isolating herself right now. Not answering texts, emails or calls. She told her brother in law she was sad about the slip, but hasn't contacted anyone else in the family.
Thankyou for this site. I'm researching all I can.
NannaM

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Kwamina]

Hi NannaM

You have been through a lot with your daughter. I am glad your daughter survived yet can imagine that the whole experience must also have been quite traumatic for you. Did you perhaps get any counseling for yourself after what happened to your daughter?

It is sad that she has relapsed now. When you talked to your daughter before, did she ever say anything about her own 6 year old daughter who she hasn't seen for many years now?

Unfortunately many other addicts have found themselves relapsing too. This does not have to be the end of things though, your daughter might still bounce back from this. You were filled with hope for her before and I understand that this recent development is quite disheartening. I do believe there is still hope though. I think it is positive that she expressed sadness about her relapse to her brother in law. Did her brother in law feel like your daughter was being sincere when she told him this?

Take care

The Board Parrot