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« on: October 30, 2017, 04:43:01 PM »

"There's really no shortcut to forgetting someone.  You just have to endure missing them everyday until you don't anymore."

Not sure who said it, but it def. rings true for me.  Still miss her every now and then.
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« Reply #1 on: October 31, 2017, 11:48:04 AM »

i think its important to be true to our feelings. missing a loved one is human - normal.

when my relationship ended i put a lot of pressure on myself. i believed something was wrong with me to feel anything other than indifference or disgust. i tried over and over to reinforce those feelings - paint her black. it didnt work because it didnt add up. i missed her. i dont today, but i didnt get there by telling myself not to or pretending i didnt.

sometimes loved ones exit our lives. missing them is a healthy response but can be hard to sit with. its a hard lesson.
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« Reply #2 on: October 31, 2017, 02:50:28 PM »

Not sure who said it, but it def. rings true for me. 

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Is it true?

If it is, it is contrary to what is taught in CBT.

I don't think anyone can make themselves "forget on command". I do think we can do things speed of healing and speed up the time to let go.
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