Hi Mama2Royalty,
I am sorry to hear this! My h tried to divorce me just 2 weeks after signing marriage papers. Ouch!
You are not alone! We're here and can relate!
Have you had a chance to look here at the
Relationship Tools and Skills Workshops?
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=36.0You might want to start with the Dos and Don'ts of BPD relationships. Early tools that helped me a lot were also learning not JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain) - boy does that cut down on arguments - just by not feeding into the mean stuff he'd throw at me.
Also, you should be sure and check out the Improving board as people often discuss their use of the tools mentioned on this site and what works or doesn't work.
wishing you the best!