Looking for a psychologist

[QueerDread]

Hi everyone!  

I'm looking for a psychologist to me and I would like to find a person with experience about BPD.

Do you have any tips of which psychologist specialties are most efficient treating BPD?

Thanks!

[Kwamina]

Hi there

I remember from your first post that you are dealing with a BPD mother and also have a brother with certain BPD traits.

Are you looking for a psychologist for yourself now, to help you with your own issues?

Or are you trying to find a psychologist who might be able to work with your mother and/or brother?

Take care and I hope to read more from you later

The Board Parrot

[QueerDread]

Hi Kwamina!

I'm looking for a psychologist for me that can help me with my own issues (which include my relation with my BPD mother and my brother with certain BPD traits)... .

I don't know if there is a psychologic line that treats the BPD! What do you think?

Thankyou for your attention and I hope read something about you too   

[Kwamina]

Hi again QD

Many of our members find themselves struggling with certain issues of their own. Dealing with BPD family-members can be very difficult and really take its toll on people. What do you consider the biggest personal issues you are dealing with? What kind of help are you looking for?

There are definitely therapists who specialize in treating people with BPD. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was for instance designed to treat people with BPD. It was developped by Dr Marsha Linehan and you can read more about it here:
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) for Borderline Personality Disorder

[QueerDread]

Hi Kwamina 
I really thankful your tip! I will read about the Dialectical Behavior Therapy and search for a therapist in this area.

I think my biggest personal issue is that I have some traits of the BPD (like my brother, but less than he because he still lives with our mom) and it makes me a moody and insecure person. It is too bad because affects my relationship with my girlfriend and my professional performance. So, I think I need to heal my relation with my mother to change my own behavior! I'm looking for help to deal in another way with my mom and to be different without preoccupation about her problems.

What a mission! ha ha ha 

I will send you a private message to talk more!

[Kwamina]

... .it makes me a moody and insecure person. It is too bad because affects my relationship with my girlfriend and my professional performance.

To help you with your healing, it might also help to go through the Survivor's Guide for adults who suffered childhood abuse. You can find this guide in the right hand side margin of this board, it aims to take us from survivor to thriver through 3 major stages: 1. Remembering --> 2. Mourning --> 3. Healing. When you look at the guide, which steps most resonate with what you're currently going through?

Thanks for your interest in my own story As Board Parrot I made my way here 4.5 years ago but I had already found the site some 1.5 years before that. I am here because of some undiagnosed BPD family-members, my mother and older sister. It definitely can be very challenging dealing with BPD family-members and can really affect you even in your adult life. I have found participating on this forum very helpful and validating. Learning about BPD was a very surreal and at the same time very validating and liberating experience for me, it helped me to finally start to make some sense of what I had been experiencing with my family-members.

Take care

The Board Parrot