Just starting out here

[Hopeful2017]

Hi, i'm new here. my wife of 13 years fits all the characteristics of BPD and has Narcissistic traits.  Not sure where to start or what to do.  I am starting therapy today for myself and plan to approach my wife.  I am scared of what her reaction will be to all of this and haven't told her of the therapy yet.  holding out hope we can work through this together. 

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[Tattered Heart]

Welcome hopeful2017



So glad that you are getting therapy for yourself. I'm sure it will be helpful. How will you approach telling her about getting therapy? WHat do you think she will say about it?

[heartandwhole]

Hi Hopeful2017,



I'd like to join Tattered Heart and welcome you to the community. You've found a great place for support. There are a lot of resources and tools here that can help your relationship, and members who understand the challenges of loving someone with BPD.

Are you experiencing a lot of conflict in your relationship at the moment? What kinds of behaviors are you dealing with?

Keep posting. We're here for you.

heartandwhole