Hi Kelli Cornet,
I'd like to join
Mutt in welcoming you to the site. Thanks for joining us by posting.
When you're ready to share a bit of back story feel free to. As Mutt said, although there can be similarities each story is different, and helps us to help you work through things. Has it been long since the end of the relationship and how do you feel about things right now?
To add to what Mutt shared, another slant on what you've asked may be this:
Individuals with borderline personality disorder may have a pattern of undermining themselves at the moment a goal is about to be realized (e.g., dropping out of school just before graduation; regressing severely after a discussion of how well therapy is going; destroying a good relationship just when it is clear that the relationship could last).Does this fit with what you're describing?
The above is taken from the
DSM Definition of BPD, under Associated Features Supporting Diagnosis. I'd recommend reading the whole article if you've not already, as it may cast further light for you.
Could you share some examples of what you're describing in your post? How did this manifest in your r/s?
Love and light x
