She cheated on her long term bf with 2 men

[Gunit1]

Narcissist or BPD? Both?

I am confused and had hard time. I got involved with a women who had a bf but the night we got drunk and spoke she told me their were issues, anyway she kissed me. Got my number and things went from there. I knew what I was doing was bad but there was something sucking me in with this women.
She loved bombed me in all ways they do. Manipulated, pushed me away at times and when I agreed in the end she would be back day or 2 later saying I'm still on her mind and suck me back in.

She made her bf improve things and even propose to her and then is off cheating with me still. If I didn't see or talk when she wanted it caused issues, when I wanted anything my wsy was when fights started.

Over the time I felt like she would just turn from lovey one night to pushing me away the next and then coming back again.

After we had little break, we started up again and for 5-6 months besides some fights about her selfish side and talking with no action. We were pretty good, alot of sex and caych ups, phone and txting ect as normal.
Caught her out on odd lie here and there, she always seemed self absorbed and manipulative. Didjt want me moving on to another girl even though she was in a relationship trying to still have a baby!

Moving forward after a few days away together, she went on work trip. This is when things changed and felt her pulling away for first time. She said she needed to pull back as she wants focus on her rel. I had suspected she was seeing another guy who she had work travel with but more I pushed this the more lies and fights and gas lighting happened, calling me crazy, paranoid or making up ___ in my head, being insecure and if ever got a sorry it was I'm sorry i made you feel that way...

The more I suspected and more she was missing and routine changed the more we had fights and more lies and bs I got. Even if I said something nornal like u can call me tonigjt when yr done with everything she went off becuase I was no doubt getting in way of her cheating ways. This was a person who only weeks prior talked to me almost every Min or the day in some way and always wanted to know what I was doing to now not giving a ___. She never cared enough bout her bf before so I knew there was more to it.

She made up massive lies bout being with her bf which I later found out she was with new supply. More closer I got to truth the more she lied and started blaming me for how I rel turned to crap. I got blamed for everything by the end and also reason her rel got destoryed and chances of her having  a baby with him. I later found out she had already left that bf. She just did not want me to know and more I begged for truth the more nasty she became. I saw whole diff side to her. Last time I saw her it was like her personality had totally changed.

I got destoryed when I found out the whole truth and fact for least the least month and half she was sleeping with all 3 guys. Now she is just with the new guy. Totally blocked and cut me out as she said I was abusive, possessive, needy ect but this was all at end because I was trying to get the truth of what the hell happened to the girl who was obsessed with me prior!

Everything she said I was at the end, she had done through the whole relationship. Use to stalk my social media and hate any girl on it.
She said I was the love of her life... Then leaves me and her other bf like we were nothing but things to be used.

I found out she had also lied about other things along the way. She is jealous person who always thinks others are jealous of her if they are goin against her in any way. More so other women. She cheated with me for 15 months until point of getting thus new guy who must be a sucker like I was for her to want to be in a relationship.

I have read heaps about mental disorder since then and scary enough she fits bill of a narcissist but also other traits so sometimes it's confusing.

Anyone else help? She is a compulsive liar, cheater, manipulator, suductive, charming, moody, hated criticism like most ppl but she would go off, never really said sorry and if she did it would be taken back by the next fight or it was sh*t apology, thinks highly of herself and wears very expensive brands of clothing which seen can be narcissist women trait, showed no care for how she treated me at end or her other bf. Only that it's my fault and that I became crazy? And now she is playing the victim very well!

Only thing looking back is she seemed more shy, spesh with her body at first. Not sure if it was because I was younger then her. She is good at hiding her true self and seems to be different depending who she is spending time with.

I just want to know for my own sanity if she appears to have mental disorder or is she just a cheating lying scum bag?

[Lady Itone]

I'm sorry you feel bad, and I don't want to be harsh but... .It wasn't a dealbreaker for you that she was cheating on her bf, but she does it to you, and now she's "cheating lying scum?"

You were fine with her cheating and lying when you benefitted. You can hardly say you didn't know she could possibly do such a thing. In fact, you encouraged her cheating and lying by participating in it.

That being said, having someone love bomb then  withdraw really really hurts. Been there. I would say lying and hurting people thoughtlessly does point towards a damanged soul. I hope you find peace and healing.

[Gunit1]

I'm sorry you feel bad, and I don't want to be harsh but... .It wasn't a dealbreaker for you that she was cheating on her bf, but she does it to you, and now she's "cheating lying scum?"

You were fine with her cheating and lying when you benefitted. You can hardly say you didn't know she could possibly do such a thing. In fact, you encouraged her cheating and lying by participating in it.

That being said, having someone love bomb then  withdraw really really hurts. Been there. I would say lying and hurting people thoughtlessly does point towards a damanged soul. I hope you find peace and healing.

By no means was I ok with it. At first I was told they had issues and then she was thinking of leaving him, just as I gave up and pretty well said bye she made this big thing bout fighting with him and that she was gonna leave him ect and sucked me in, said she was going to see therapist but think this was a lie. After she knew she had me sucked back in, she decided to give it one more try with bf. I guess by then I loved her and lost any self respect for myself and kept seeing her on the side. She would always always say I'm still confused I dunno what I'll do like she had to put hope in my mind.

[Lady Itone]

Gotcha. Thanks for explaining. You'll find help in this forum keep reading and posting we've all been there.

[Gunit1]

Gotcha. Thanks for explaining. You'll find help in this forum keep reading and posting we've all been there.

I guess because I was only fed lies and no closure and after reading a lot! I wanted to know if my suspicions of her being narc or having BPD or something else seems correct...