The pain is excruciating

[NaellaLuv4ever]

  Hi im new here and am just looking for ways to cope with what I thought would be a lifetime relationship, where we both would help fight each others demons.

I know in my mind without a shadow of a doubt that I would have remained faithful and engaged in this lifelong relationship, but now am struggling to understand what made her act the way she did, and why it seems nothing she did to hurt me is accounted for by her.

I just need help, because so many unanswered questions make me feel helpless.

[Skip]

What types of things happened?

[Mutt]

Hi NaellaLuv4ever,

I just need help, because so many unanswered questions make me feel helpless.

I’d like to welcome you to the group. You came to the right place for help we’ll help you process your feelings. Many members will offer advice and you choose what suits your situation. We’re to help.

I’d like to echo Skip, what happened that led you here?

[Lucky Jim]

Hey NaellaLuv, Welcome!  What are some of the unanswered questions that are bringing up feelings of helplessness?  BPD is an extremely complex disorder and it's normal to search for explanations of what often seems like baffling behavior.  Fill us in, when you can.

LuckyJim