Tanare
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: February 02, 2018, 05:52:19 PM » |
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I found out on Monday that my husband has been cheating for last 8 months with some woman. Found her love letter to him and condoms in his work bag. We have been married for 20 years, 3 kids. I am devastated. I knew something was going on because sometimes he was not coming home, saying he has too much work and crashing with friends in the city. We stopped being intimate around 8 months ago, he announced he was a "monk", and not interested. Went through his stuff, found receipts from lunches, drinks. I asked him who is she, he accused me of stealing his stuff, told me that he has been stuck in a loveless marriage and it is my fault. Ignores me, does not provide no answers.
Similar situation happened 10 years ago when he moved for a month to the city, but he came back because the girl he fell for, actually did not want him, he misunderstood her intentions.
He feels zero remorse. Zero responsibility. Says he has been a victim and I made him do it. He is a very good looking, professional, 47 year old, exterly charming when you meet him. Can tell stories about his travels, asventures forever. People adore him, but there is another side of him that comes out when u get to know him better. He gets bored with people, and from adoring and admiring someone he starts lashing out at that person. Can not take criticism. Has been blaming me for almost everything. And he exaggerates and makes up stories! He made up stories that I have affairs with our kids doctors, dentists, says outlandish stuff with no shame. I advised therapy many times but he says doctors are charlatans, and he is smarter than them. He can be so loving, caring, wonderful and then he becomes that monster, like another person. Don't know what to go. 20 years of marriage down the drain. Must have been my fault, I should have left long time ago. Tough times.
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