she watches my every move, makes false accusations

[Lost n Confused]

This is my first time on this site and so my first post. I've been in a civil union, my better judgement told me not to marry, for 33 years. Our children are either grown or in college, so 4 years with less to distract from the relationship. At this point it feels emotionally abusive. Her motives are often a mystery to me. While I do feel I grasp the borderline dynamic I feel incredibly isolated and in pain. Nothing I do is ever right enough, she watches my every move, makes false accusations, projects constantly. My level of inner pain and confusion has become unbearable.

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[Tattered Heart]

Welcome lost n confused.

I"m sorry that you are in so much pain. I can imagine how now that your children are gone, you and your W are now faced with not only learning to get to know each other again. Add the difficulties of BPD and that can be pretty big hurdle.

You said she watches your every move. What does she do to watch you?

What would you say is the one thing that is causing you the most pain now?

[Mutt]

Hi Lost N Confused,



I’d like to join Tattered Heart and welcome you to bpdfamily. I’m sorry that you’re going through a difficult time. A r/s with a pwBPD can make you feel like your constantly walking on eggshells like you describe. I’d like to echo Tattered Heart by asking you what issues are you having? Do you spend time with family and friends? Do you have kids?