Hello, I am joining this online support community because my daughter was recently diagnosed with BPD, plus depression and anxiety.
Hiya, tons! Welcome here. I'm sorry you had to find us, but I'm glad you found us.
A BPD diagnosis, while tough, is often the last diagnosis we get for our kids after years of other diagnoses. You're not alone there, many of s have walked the same awful path you're walking. The good news is that the path is wide and well-tended by those before you, behind you, and who now walk with you.
This came about after a suicide attempt. In a odd way, it was a relief to finally have a diagnosis that made sense after 7 years of struggling to figure out why medication and CBT therapy weren't working.
Nothing odd about it. Please don't feel guilty for feeling relief. I know I did as well when mine got the diagnosis. It's like, "well, this sucks, but at lease it's I KNOW what it's called. ":)isease, I name you." It made me feel way better, and there was guilt about feeling better about this terrible thing that's happening to my kid.
I have been reading a lot about BPD since, and know there is tons more for me to learn. I hope this community can share its collective wisdom with me.
1. good. reading is one of the keys.
2. yes, learning is important, see #1.
3. oh, we will. just ask, and we will talk to you, with you, or not,. if you just want to come sit on the giant couch of BPD survivors, c'mon down. We have cookies.
4. I'm not trying to be flippant - but humor is my defense mechanism. I feel like it's like riding a rollercoaster blindfolded - I have no idea when it's going to end, where it's going to end, nor how it's going to end, so laugh when you can.
She recently spend 4 days in bed. I haven't read in BPD literature yet that people with BPD tend to do this, so I am wondering if that is the depression vs. the BPD.
Um... .both? And yes, it can be both.
Overall... .I just want to help my daughter achieve the best life possible. And like all parents, I just want to see her happy and healthy.
We all do, for yours and ours.
Again, welcome. Look around.
Ask questions, listen to what we have to say, and then take the advice or don't. Either way is fine.
If you need anything, holler. I'll be over on the couch.
Probably laughing at something inappropriate.
-jyw