Do others believe their stories?

[Pina colada]

I have been NC with sis since December when she cut me off because I couldn't give her an answer, while I was grocery shopping as to why I wasn't cutting off a male friend.  It was crazy but typical.  I told her I needed a "time out" which is what we agreed to when things got contentious... .as usual, she broke all our agreements and sent me many text I never read and maybe someday will but couldn't really care right now.  Anyways, it is almost April, she knows no one that I do.  She doesn't talk to any family members... .(they don't talk to her) and knows nothing of my life.  She still writes freely, on another forum about my life, who I am with, what I think, what I feel, etc.  How is that possible?  She has no idea where I am at.  Perhaps I am engaged to a great guy!  Maybe I got back with my ex.  Maybe I am happily single.  Anyone else "ill" relative spin tales about your lives that just aren't true?  Do you think folks on that chat forum believe her?  She states all the time she cut me off in December.  I kind of think they would pick up on that.  In fact less and less folks even comment on her stuff.  Boring, untrue.

[zachira]

I am sorry that your mother is telling people stories that are untrue about you. She is most likely very frustrated that she cannot control you, and needs to tell this to about others so she does not have to face how empty she feels now that you are not in her life. It can feel like a terrible betrayal and extremely intrusive that your own mother is telling terrible lies about you, and you naturally wonder why, as you have done nothing to deserve this, and would not do this to another person.
In regards to your question, do other people believe her made up stories about you? My mother often tells lies about my siblings and I believe it is because she needs to be number one and is very threatened by the thought of her children being separate people from her. This has been going on since childhood. I have learned that some people believe her stories, and there is little my siblings can do to change their minds. Other people are often shocked by the discrepancy between her stories and what I am like when they get to know me. Some people are somewhere in the middle, and don't seem to like our family period, which could be that there are  just plain uncomfortable with my mother's odd behaviors.
Many of the people who post on this site have shared experiences of relatives telling completely fabricated stories and lies about them. Hopefully, they will also share. Take care and let us know how we can help!

[Deb]

Unfortunately, some borderlines are s convincing that people believe their lies.  My sister has always found people who will believe the lies they tell. She tells people about her grandchildren as if she sees them all the time. She has seen ONE grandchild, one time. When he was 3. He is now 27. The other 5 she has NEVER seen! She tells people all sorts f stories about me. I no longer care because I know none of her friends. I never interact with them. It took me awhile to get here.

[Pina colada]

zachira thank you for your response.  It is my BPD sister that does this to me although everything you said about the situation could apply too.  I am mostly just venting and know I can't control my sister but only myself.  I know she must be very unhappy as she writes so much negative about me and others, even her own kids.  I also feel when one tells everyone how "Happy" they are it usually is because they feel quite the opposite.  I do feel sorry for my sister and her life and how she feels the need to lash out at me and others out of her own personal unhappiness.   Deb you got it!  After my sister betrayed me over 20 years ago I was NC with her about 7 years I believe.  Most peaceful time ever.  The only reason I spoke to her again was for my dads sake.  I was very close to our mom and dad, she was not and always resented me for that and said terrible things about both of them.  My life is good and I am at peace and while I wish I had a sister that was "normal", it was not to be.  I miss the sister I wished I could have.  Not the sick and disruptive person that she is.  Thanks for sharing your stories!