In the UK the barristers write the order for the judge... at the last hearing exes barrister added an additional and false order into court order. I challenged it... it has taken a while but the court ordered that her additions are retracted. Clearly the judge could remember what he had actually said in the hearing.
It works the same way in my state.
My L wanted me to pay for her to write the orders instead of the other L. It costs extra, but it can create an important advantage, especially when the legal abuse is on the high end of high conflict.
I believe the clerk of court writes down what the judge rules where I live, then one of the Ls writes it into an order. Then both Ls and clients return to court to have it officially entered. Is it the same way in the UK?
Life still seems like an alternative reality.
I felt the same way for 4 years.
Then, when the court began to recognize ex as the problem, it s l o w l y began to taper off. And I mean s l o w l y
I had to shift my focus to legal strategy with much more intent because so many small losses were happening in the technical parts, where there were tiny loopholes I had to close.
It was exhausting.
Even just seeing the court house makes me feel all those old feelings.