I decided to go for divorce

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Hi people,

I lot happend in de last few weeks. It started when child services decided to stop with de help they gave us. This gave my wife and her mother a feeling that they can't lose anymore and that they are completely right. God wants it this way, is what they think.

This was followed on May the 4th by my mother-in-law who went back to Suriname. I was hoping this would bring my wife a bit closer to reality, but it didn't. She didn't want to talk about the future anymore and how we sould move on, with our different viewes en the fact I'm living elsewhere for more than seven months now. When I proposed mediation she didn't want to react on it and when I proposed it for the third time, she said she didn't want a third person involved again.

In the meantime she didn't accept the present my son (4 years old) and me had bought for her. She was convinced it was a present from my mother and my ant who had put a demon in the present. She said I should give it to my mother. When she said it for the fouth time I asked my son if he wanted that and when he said 'Yes', it was what I did.

Then it became May 17th. Out of nowhere she decided to limit my time with my son to bringing him to bed on wednesday and every other weekend I could see him for a couple of hours on Sunday. For me this was unacceptable. Then she said it was this or only videochat with WhatsApp for three months.

I told her that I had to think on everythiing for a couple of days and then come back to her. On May 23, I told my wife I was going for a contact arrangement and a divorce. This landed hard with her, but after 24 hours she changed het tone. She became more willing en everyday I had a videochat with him.

Today the letter of my lawyer came in for her. Now she is angry. For the time being I want to move in with my parents. I can have I room for me and a seperate room for my son there. But for my wife my parents are sick demonic racist pigs. I know they aren't that. They are loving parents and grandparents. It hurts me that I have to do this and move in with my parents. I do this because I simple don't have another option. I'm looking for one, because I want my own place. Until then I have to do this.

It is difficult because since wednesday I haven't had my son in my arms and when she is this angry I'm afraid I won't have him in my arms very soon. I hope she will let me have him on wednesday for a couple of hours.

It are difficult days, but I have to stay on course. I hope I will succeed in this.

Greetings,

LovingDad

[LovingDad]

Hi people,

I lot happend in de last few weeks. It started when child services decided to stop with de help they gave us. This gave my wife and her mother a feeling that they can't lose anymore and that they are completely right. God wants it this way, is what they think.

This was followed on May the 4th by my mother-in-law who went back to Suriname. I was hoping this would bring my wife a bit closer to reality, but it didn't. She didn't want to talk about the future anymore and how we sould move on, with our different viewes en the fact I'm living elsewhere for more than seven months now. When I proposed mediation she didn't want to react on it and when I proposed it for the third time, she said she didn't want a third person involved again.

In the meantime she didn't accept the present my son (4 years old) and me had bought for her. She was convinced it was a present from my mother and my ant who had put a demon in the present. She said I should give it to my mother. When she said it for the fouth time I asked my son if he wanted that and when he said 'Yes', it was what I did.

Then it became May 17th. Out of nowhere she decided to limit my time with my son to bringing him to bed on wednesday and every other weekend I could see him for a couple of hours on Sunday. For me this was unacceptable. Then she said it was this or only videochat with WhatsApp for three months.

I told her that I had to think on everythiing for a couple of days and then come back to her. On May 23, I told my wife I was going for a contact arrangement and a divorce. This landed hard with her, but after 24 hours she changed het tone. She became more willing en everyday I had a videochat with him.

Today the letter of my lawyer came in for her. Now she is angry. For the time being I want to move in with my parents. I can have I room for me and a seperate room for my son there. But for my wife my parents are sick demonic racist pigs. I know they aren't that. They are loving parents and grandparents. It hurts me that I have to do this and move in with my parents. I do this because I simple don't have another option. I'm looking for one, because I want my own place. Until then I have to do this.

It is difficult because since wednesday I haven't had my son in my arms and when she is this angry I'm afraid I won't have him in my arms very soon. I hope she will let me have him on wednesday for a couple of hours.

It are difficult days, but I have to stay on course. I hope I will succeed in this.

Greetings,

LovingDad

[Mutt]

Hi LovingDad,

I’m sorry that you and your son are going through this. I can understand how it would be difficult to move in with your parents it looks like you have the right frame of mind - it’s temporary this will only be for a short period. I hope that you get to see your son did talk to your L about a custody order for your son?

[LovingDad]

Hi Mutt,

Thanks for your reply.

I hope to see my son tommorow for a couple of hours. Last Friday my lawyer brought a custody order to the court.

I made the following proposal to my wife for my time with my son until we come to an agreement between our lawyers or the court wil tell the contact arrangement:
- I will see my son on wednesdays and sundays from 2pm till 5 pm. I also will have the car then.

This should be temporary, because the court should rule within 3 weeks.

Greetings,

LovingDad