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« on: May 28, 2018, 04:09:44 PM »

Hi family

After the events of the last two weeks, have gotten the courage to email him(his ph nbr is blocked), to ask which days work for him to get his personal items.  I have kept his personal items for over 14 months.  He seems totally unconcerned about this.

Anyway, am at the end of my rope w him.  I am pressing the issue.  He has become very obnoxious, buttering me up, and i am done.  For now
  I blocked him on my phone.

I feel it is time for him to hear the music.  His choices have consequences.  I am not bearing the consequences any more!

Thank you, j
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« Reply #1 on: May 28, 2018, 04:47:19 PM »


Everyone's choices have consequences... .and... .nothing changes without change.

Think this through... .make your decisions and move along to your future.

FF
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« Reply #2 on: May 28, 2018, 04:57:30 PM »

Thank you f.

The way he shamelessly set me up these last two weeks, was the wake up call.  He has had no consequences.  I was afraid of (what) to stand up for myself.  Anyway, after talking to my sponsor today, we both believe it is past time to enforce boundary of him keeping his stuff in my space.

its time.  I am willing to let consequences happen.

I have nothing to lose.

thank you, j
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« Reply #3 on: May 29, 2018, 01:56:09 AM »

it will be okay.

i feel at peace w these choices and also enforcing boundaries.
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