Severing all ties

[juju2]

the other thing, he made me wrong for visiting him, he said "you surprised me by coming here"
to which i said, i only was going to drop your plant at the nurses station, and when i was leaving, you met me in the elevator... .i stood up for myself.  He is one of the most ungrateful person i have ever met... .it amazes me that he has used that tactic our whole r/s.  He makes me wrong, i feel guilty, and then i do more for him, and the cycle repeats.  I broke the cycle yesterday, by standing up for myself and for letting him know, dont worry about me.  I am o.k. 

Despite all this, my care for him is still there.  I cant say i dont care.  I am just seeing more of the dynamic, what he was using to keep me.  I would do something supportive, then i would get punished, then i would think there was something wrong w me, and try harder next time... .insanity.

I am being restored from being insane.

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[CryWolf]

I think he is upset you are seeing someone new. Him saying “I hope I end back in here” is probably him expressing how hurt he feels and wants you to show you care still.

What do you think?

[juju2]

Hi cry,

I am sure it is a shock to him.  And i cant control, cure, or cause anything.  Its his life.

Thank you cry!

[Harri]

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