Do You Still Dream of Your Ex?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I dont dream about her anymore, also get a good nights sleep.

I started to get nightmares when I briefly got back in contact with her - more the reason to acknowledge that she couldnt be even in my life at arms-length text/phone call distance.

[Cromwell]

I dont dream about her anymore, also get a good nights sleep.

I started to get nightmares when I briefly got back in contact with her - more the reason to acknowledge that she couldnt be even in my life at arms-length text/phone call distance.

[PearlPark]

I probably dream about her more than I remember. The last time was probably a couple of days ago. I dreamt that she had broken up with her current relationship and continuing the cycle of replace and devalue.

There was more to the dream, but I can't remember. There has been plenty of times where I feel like she's watching over me in my dreams.

It's been 8 months now

[I_Am_The_Fire]

I've been divorced for a couple of years now. We had been together for close to twenty years. He's uBPD\NPD and is emotionally abusive. Every so often I have nightmares involving him. The common theme is that he hasn't let go of me and is trying to trap me. In these dreams, I feel trapped, scared, anxious, sometimes terrified because I'm afraid he'll become physically violent. I've had dreams of him breaking into my current house when I'm alone in the house and becoming violent, either threatening to kill himself and/or me.  I don't think he'd break into my house in real life, though. Still, I check the locks and windows almost religiously. When I'm running errands by myself, I find myself looking for his car to make sure he's not around. I'm working on my hyper vigilance issues in therapy.

After we divorced, he still referred to me as his wife for awhile. He actually sent a message to my fiance that said "My wife is not your soulmate!" This was well after the divorce (I became engaged earlier this year). I can't go NC with him because we have shared custody of children. So I do BIFF and low contact. He does seem to get more angry and bitter as time goes on. I'm not sure if he'll ever let go and try to move on with his life because he brings up the past a lot. I don't discuss anything about the past with him anymore, only things that are about the children that need to be discussed.