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« on: July 16, 2018, 07:01:01 AM »
How did you meet your SO? Online dating, through friends, work or... .?
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« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2018, 08:03:50 AM »
Online. Her profile was full of  Red flag/bad  (click to insert in post)’s, but I still pursued. I was drawn to her and believed her.
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« Reply #2 on: July 16, 2018, 10:40:05 AM »
I misread the title. My apologies!
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« Reply #3 on: July 23, 2018, 12:06:43 PM »
Hi, spacecadet!

I love this question because it's something I remember feeling very curious about before I met my husband.

We met when I was at work - he was a guest at a place I worked at in the hospitality industry.  Prior to meeting him I had a rule to not date guests or coworkers, but everything about him felt "yes" to me so I went with it. 

Are you interested in a long term relationship?

Hopefully others will chime in and you'll see there's a lot of variety in how people in LTR's meet.
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« Reply #4 on: July 24, 2018, 06:52:33 AM »
Hey JNChell no worries  Being cool (click to insert in post)

Good story, Insom! When you say everything said yes, would you care to elaborate? If you want to share how your r/s with your h deepened, e.g. how quickly or whatever... .I'd be interested! This is your success story. Smiling (click to insert in post)

I'd love to hear everyone's HAPPY r/s stories... .   Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #5 on: July 24, 2018, 10:38:42 AM »
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When you say everything said yes, would you care to elaborate?

Hmm . . . I felt a warm, buzzy sensation when we met - almost like a vibration - that felt very soft and appealing.  We both said hello.  I felt recognition, like we recognized each other even though we'd never met.  Also, his parents were with him which made him feel safe.

It was overall a much softer, warmer experience than what I had with my BPD ex.
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« Reply #6 on: August 06, 2018, 05:54:06 AM »
Neat story Insom!

Anyone else care to share success stories?
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